Paperwork Partners Blog by Pat Matson 
Question Asking – A Tool Extraordinaire
May 25th, 2010

Hieronymous, the Precious

Get used to seeing pictures of my grandson.  He’s so on the verge of magnificent discoveries and I love watching him unfold his marvelously sweet self.  He hasn’t begun to ask questions yet, but it’s coming.  Oh my, is it coming!

You business folk, have you used asking questions to help you motivate your team?  To share some understanding about another’s troubles?  To engage someone in learning what you most need to teach?

Consider avoiding dead-end, one-word-answer questions.  You want to invite someone to join in the dance, not spit out one word and stand in the stag line.

Socrates had it knocked when he used questions in his “Socratic Method.” They stimulated the individual doing the thinking into using reason, and they lit up new ideas for the participants on both sides of the issue.  Oh, did I mention the learning occurred between two opposing sides?  What a cool idea! Like debate classes.

Learning how to ask questions that are pertinent can be a grand blessing for everyone concerned.  I used to be a “let me tell you how it is” kind of individual.  It irritated lots of people.  I changed.  I now make the same points through asking questions and I seldom experience resistance.

Little Hiero will be asking questions soon, and his mommy and daddy are currently asking him questions, so he’s learning quickly.

Do you think this method might be helpful to you folks in management? You parents?  You in a relationship? You with noisy neighbors?    Hummmm?

Pat Matson,

Executive Virtual Assistant, Girl VA, and Writer of Grand Ideas

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